There are standard customs and beliefs for the Chinese that don’t align with their American counterparts.
My parents grew up in a world where girls “left” the family for someone else’s family.
I’ve been in a relationship with my boyfriend for six months now. I’ve tried to talk to my mother about the possibility of marrying outside my ethnicity but she won’t hear it.
And family is such an important part of Asian culture. If I were dating someone Chinese, how my parents and how his parents would act would be mutually understood.It certainly can feel that way sometimes (and sometimes it is that way), but I think for the majority, the core of the matter has nothing to do with racism, and everything to do with our immigrant parents wanting to be able to communicate with their new son or daughter-in-law, along with adapting to different customs and cultures.Our parents have left their native homes and joined a community where they do not speak the language (at least not strongly enough to have a political or philosophical conversation).My dad has told me time and again, with a smile and a shrug, “It’s your choice.As long as you’re happy.” My mom agrees, but it took conversations with her when I was younger (and far from dating anyone seriously).