About three-quarters of the survey takers say they've made a monogamous commitment, with a majority either married or remarried.But a significant portion found it easier to make that promise than keep it.The bright side is, while many of us are tempted by the fruit of another, it seems we fear cheating more than we need.
"It can be the 30-year-old guy who's been cohabiting for six years with his girlfriend, or the 45-year old guy who has seemed happily married for 15 years, or, perhaps most surprising, it's the young mom who seems totally wrapped up with her infant and toddler," says Lever. According to the survey, 15 percent of women and 16 percent of men with children ages 2 to 5 years had an affair."We think everybody is out there doing it," says Janet Lever, a sociologist at California State University, Los Angeles, and the study's lead researcher."Well, they're not." In fact, the rate of cheating has stayed pretty consistent, according to research expert Tom W.“Men are more threatened sexually by the sense of competition and comparison; women are more threatened by the loss of the emotional intimacy,” says Leiblum.“Whenever there is an affair there’s a sense of competitiveness with the third party.