I even had one reader who had gave the man a hard time the day after their first date when his profile was still up.
I wish these readers had written me beforehand because this is often the worst approach to take (at least from this guy’s point-of-view). I do have some advice but let’s first look at one reader’s email and user this as an example for better understanding where you stand with your guy: I have been dating a man I met on for about 6 weeks – we go out regularly and he is always quick to make plans with me.
My issue comes with him still having his profile up, and with my curiosity getting the best of me, I check almost everyday just to see when he last logged on – seems to be every few days or so.
I have read what you have written on this subject and I know you said that men are slower to remove their profiles than woman – so my question is how long is reasonable to wait for him to do this before you say something or begin to feel offended by it?
You enjoy each others’ company, enjoy the same things and over the next month or so you start to date more seriously. However there is one problem: his dating profile is still active.
If this sounds like your situation, you’re not alone.
Perhaps not nice or courteous but not unfair either.
It’s especially bothersome if his actions suggest exclusivity even if he hasn’t declared so in words…and yet it is still acceptable in my mind for him to keep his profile up, even in this case.
He’s saying that since the people who are contacting him put in the effort to contact him, he should respond to them.
Once you’ve decided to get a clearer idea of where your relationship stands, I recommend trying to start conversations as naturally as possible over a 2 to 4 week period.
Try not to force them but at the same time you will want to look for opportunities let him know that you need to know where you stand with him.
As I discussed above, I would recommend against being aggressive or angry.
Still, these are areas you will need him to define.