When the Observer first logged on, it looked like a standard online dating site: Women’s profiles, each with a non-identifying username, lined the page; we could filter prospects by age, location, appearance and interests.But this wasn’t Ok Cupid, Match.com, or even adultery marketplace Ashley Madison.Outside of sub-Saharan Africa, however, attitudes are different. But be warned: there is a system in place to prevent misusers.The site will remove any profiles that contain “abusive or disruptive messages,” and also encourages users to report suspicious behavior.Members can chat for as long as they want over the site’s private messaging system, as long as the conversations “don’t take an Islamically inappropriate direction,” Mr. If a pair decides they’re compatible, they can grant each other access to their photos, which are otherwise kept private. Khan said, couples can choose to meet in “an appropriate setting [that] is in accordance to Islamic guidelines.” Perhaps it was the unusual blending of a religious custom with modern-day technology, but we found it hard to imagine hordes of religious Muslim men enlisting the Internet to help them find second wives.“Female members have the option to invite a guardian into their conversations who she trusts to oversee the interaction,” Mr. That is, until we emailed with a real-life Second Wife user—a Qatari man who asked to remain anonymous.
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This was Second Wife.com, a matchmaking site that enables Muslim men to search for second, third, or fourth wives (the Islamic limit). Originally, he had hoped to create a more traditional matchmaking site, but found that the market was already saturated.
On the flip side, women can search Second profiles if they hope to become an extra wife. “There [were] plenty of fish (excuse the pun) to compete with,” he said.
“I have registered in this Second Wife website a while ago out of curiosity,” the man, who was introduced to us by Mr. With three wives already, he hasn’t started actively using the site, but said he “may look for the fourth” at some point in the future.
Given his history finding wives, the man said he wishes Second Wife had been around earlier. Here where I live people don’t accept this concept a lot.