I depend on customers like him for tips so I smiled, feigned laughter, and swallowed my anger.
How can we start to address sexual harassment by customers in the service industry?
Sarah Mattson Dustin: Well I think one of the things that's really important to keep in mind is that sexual harassment is often, perhaps even most of the time, not about sex.
It's a manifestation of power and powerlessness in the workplace, and women are more likely to be victimized by sexual harassment because they are less likely to be in positions of power and influence.
And so they make those decisions in an effort to buy peace and to allow everybody to move on.
And there are business justifications for having a confidentiality provision in it because if somebody who brought the claim forward then speaks to somebody else and somebody else, there could be somewhat of a bandwagon effect -- or other people making claims – so in exchange for the monetary piece there is typically a confidentiality provision in the settlement agreements.
Pastori: The New Hampshire law against discrimination which can be found at RSA 354 - A specifically defines employers in a way that there are some employers that are not covered.Allegations of sometimes serial sexual harassment involving high-profile perpetrators have led to an outpouring of outrage.And in many cases, predatory behavior appears to have gone on for years, even decades, with multiple victims either afraid to come forward or kept silent by nondisclosure agreements.And there are millions of women in this country just like Sarah who are faced with a really impossible decision between pushing back as she described it or reporting sexual harassment, and their livelihood -- between being able to pay the rent and put food on the table for their kids. The person who's been harassed and the harasser or their company agrees on a settlement of some sort and the person who's been suffering from sexual harassment can take a monetary payment of some sort and either stay in the company or make another move, but they may never talk about it.So we really need to keep in mind that just because some women have been able to come forward and tell their stories right now at this moment does not mean that all women are. The perpetrator the perpetrator is allowed to continue working in their position, continue to collect a paycheck and usually doesn't get a demotion. And now they're just moving on to their next victim.