When a friend tells me that he or she is dating, I usually ask them to explain what exactly they mean by the word “dating.” When they give me a blank stare, I prompt them by asking: Is it casual dating? But at this stage of dating, they are not ready to pick up and move to the other person’s city. Courtship) Goal: Making a yes or no decision about marriage The old-fashioned name of this type of dating is called “courtship.” During courtship, a couple gets to know each other for the purpose of deciding whether they should get married or not. My friend met a nice girl on e Harmony a few months ago. They started talking every day, and he has even visited her twice since then. They are trying to get to know each other enough to decide whether to not to move into a serious and committed relationship (see below).
This stage of dating is much different than the others.
In most cases, it involves a commitment to an exclusive relationship with the other person to make this decision.
Some couples will introduce each other to the important people in their life: parents, family, friends, mentors, spiritual community, etc. Some couples will try living together (the pros and cons of doing this are an entirely different blog post, and we are looking for someone to write intelligently about this so if you are interested in doing this, please let us know).
You’re not trying to scope out the other person to see if they are marriage material. And friends spend time with each other to have fun.
It might be informal and private, or it might be a public affair involving family or community approval.