Half the fun of going out is getting to know someone new, so allow yourself to let that happen organically." —Oliver B."Please don't compare us to your exes—out loud or even in your head.Sometimes horror stories about them can make for fun discussion, but don't ever bring your ex into the conversation if it's not called for.Men are attracted to confident women who get the concept of “interdependence.” Interdependence requires that you’re both independent and dependent; that means you create a sacred space for your relationship as well as sacred space for your work, passions and friends. While you might think it is cute to have three glasses of wine at dinner, he does not. If you need to loosen up before a date, watch a comedy right before you leave or take a walk. One guy told us that he went on a first date and his date wouldn’t order any food because she wasn’t “hungry.” But then every time he cut a piece of steak on his plate, she reached over and ate it!Don’t lose the things that are most important to you, and keep doing what you were doing before you started dating him: your Sunday morning yoga class, a yearly vacation with your college roommates, etc. Best to leave your glass half full and your plate empty(ish). Some men ARE afraid of commitment (so they might need a little more time than you to decide if you’re the one).If you want to show a man that you’re girlfriend material, don’t hook up with him on the first date. If you’re consistently calling, texting, emailing, and doing all the asking out, a man won’t have to lift a finger. This is not to say that you can’t ever reach out to a man you’re dating, but let him do the asking out — at least in the early stages. You deserve someone who wants to reach out to you, call you, and ask you out. Words are helpful, and you should use them sometimes. Try something like, “You know, I’d really like not to see other people. ” If he gives you an answer you aren’t looking for, buh-bye. It will probably make him wonder if you would do the very same thing with every other Tom, Dick and Harry. If you’re both interested in each other, there will be a natural balance in the amount of communication. So, he tells you he wants to introduce you to his sister?
Remember, he fell in love with the dynamic “you” who has her own interests and passions, who wanted to make him a part of your life, not the whole darn thing.It shows me that she's genuinely interested in spending time with me as opposed to wanting to be wined and dined regardless of who she's with." —Nate N."If the guy doesn't say something and take the check off the table to pay, it's probably fair to assume that you're going Dutch.There are different reasons that a guy might not pick up the tab (some that might not have anything to do with you), but if you're into him, avoid looking too disappointed.When I hear about a girl's man, I'm assuming we probably shouldn't be on that date period.If she literally can't keep his name out of her mouth for a couple of hours, it makes me feel like she's clearly not over past issues.