The only difference is that people who’ve had other relationships have the experience to guide them through the rough patches.That first relationship can be tricky because you’re basically groping in the dark.See, much like the popped-collar Broseph who’s convinced that doing “Straight Out of Compton” at the Applebees karaoke night is a good idea after five Tuaca bombs, when you’re in the throes of your first relationship, your common sense tends to go right out the window. Those early glory days fade faster than you realize.That rush means in the oxytocin haze, but falls apart when it fades and her inability to clean up after herself isn’t cute anymore. Just don’t let that early infatuation push you into going too far, too fast. In fact, let’s talk about that for a minute: One thing that almost always freaks out relationship newbies: the first fight.We tend to enter into each relationship with the assumption that this is the we will ever have… That mindset stresses us out and makes every conflict seem like one of catastrophic importance because “what if this means that we won’t last until the end of time!!!!! That doesn’t mean that the relationship itself was a failure – it just means that it’s naturally run its course and now it’s time to move to the next stage of our lives.
But as much fun as it is to get lost in the rush of that initial infatuation, you have to be careful.But more often than not, the people who’re terrified of being trapped by a master manipulator are more afraid of the of the manipulative partner than the reality.Many times when you scratch deep enough, that fear of being “trapped” by a gold-digger or a woman trying to lock you into a relationship via kids is more about how they feel about women as a And more to the point: the way you avoid manipulators and users is simple. It can sound weird to talk about boundaries in the context of a long-term – or even a short-term- relationship.A successful relationship doesn’t mean staying with someone until you die, nor does avoiding a break-up make a relationship successful.You can stay in a relationship that makes you miserable until the day they carry you out in a pine box – personally, I’d call a failed relationship over the couple that realized they were done and made a clean break of it.