"If you play games and wait to get back to him, he may have already run off into the sunset with someone else," says Spira.
You need to show your interest right away; in the world of online dating you never know how many women one man has contacted, and how quickly the others may express their interest.
According to Ok Trends, the top three phrases in initial e-mails with the highest response rate are "you mention," "good taste" and "noticed that." So, describe something that resonated with you from his profile, advises Spira, but avoid physical compliments because "they seem too clichéd." And keep it brief: Ok Trends found that the ideal first message length is only 200 characters, or one minute's worth of typing for the average writer.
The shortest messages get the best response rate; the reply rate goes down as messages get longer.
"Your primary photo should be all about you." She recommends posting between three to five photos only—any more and "it's as if you're already smothering your future partner." Also, be sure to include a shot where you can see your body.
It doesn't have to be provocative (and you most certainly do not have to have a perfect figure!
This situation is not necessarily easy to handle, but there are methods you can use to turn dating into a relationship.
"It gives a richer picture of who you are," he adds.
Your Profile Picture It can seem difficult to stand out in the vast sea of online daters; the best way to do so is by creating a great profile—and be sure to always include a photo.
"The amount of times that people are approached when they have photos is multitudes more than when they don't," says Gian Gonzaga, Ph D, e Harmony's senior director of research and development and head of e Harmony Labs. Leave behind group shots, which can make it confusing for other people to identify you, advises Spira, and choose a headshot in which you are smiling.
"You'd want a rock star résumé for your perfect dream job, and you should feel the same way about your online dating profile." And the profile is just where it starts—we have plenty of expert tips, from sending the perfect first e-mail to picking your first date location.
Here, everything you need to know to find love on the World Wide Web.1.