I have no idea why and it’s definitely not a conscious choice.
I grew up in a small town in the 90's, where I was the only non-white girl in my class at school and my skin colour was a curiosity rather than a threat.
Black women have remarked about an ever-shrinking pool of black eligible men who are available for dating and marriage.
One of the consequences of this imbalance has been that more famous black women are settling for white partners.
Let’s call him Adam (that’s his real name but London is a big place, I’m sure he’ll be fine). Which is a bit annoying, but he just wants to make sure he’s not just looking at a situation from a position of white privilege, which is a good thing, right? They see a white man and a woman of colour walking down the street and no matter what the body language, people will act surprised when they find out they’re together.
Adam informed me that blackface wasn’t actually offensive, it was just people pretending to be offended because they love a good argument. Probably best just to skirt around it and be vague ('she’s average height with brown curly hair'). If your boyf is not a total douchebag, it will have occurred to him that he has a massive economic and social advantage over most of the rest of the world. It’s kind of the opposite of when you’re out with a brown friend and everyone thinks you’re related. All of this makes it sound like race defines my dating experiences, which is obviously not true at all.
I went on a disastrous first date recently with a guy I met on Tinder. Anything remotely race-related, he will want your perspective and expect you to have insight. Unless you’re sucking each others’ faces off, people won’t guess. Then you might also be interested in: Things You Only Know If You're A Jewish Girl Dating Online Tinder Is Dead: How Has The App Gone From Hero To Zero In Just Six Months?After we were seated I asked him how many black girls he’d dated. “I don’t want to be part of your chocolate fantasy.”“Uh … I’m black or brown, depending on who you ask, and I mainly date white guys.Tinder offers a soul-destroying glimpse into the worst and most racist of humanity. READ MORE: Finally Someone's Created A Nude Bra That Actually Works For Black Women Some white guys have their own stupid ideas about race and will want to share them with you.Often a guy will say something along the lines of, ‘There was no racism where I grew up, we all just got along!