She arrived (which is a good start), I bought her a glass of wine and myself a pint of bitter. So off to the loo she popped……and she never came back! She replied back, apologetically and stated that she did not know I was deaf and it felt wrong to date a ‘vulnerable adult’!!
We sat down and started talking, firstly about the dating website and how we found it. Thinking back quickly through the conversation, could my job have put her off or did I inadvertently call her fat (she wasn’t)? Needless to say, I was somewhat offended and blocked her. This time, I shall tell them I am deaf before we meet. I got some views, people started messaging me and I hit it off with a few women….fantastic! ‘Just so you aware, I am deaf, but don’t worry, I can still talk and communicate with you’.
After a (long) while being single, I decided I would try the internet dating thing a try.
A number of my (hearing) friends have had great success with them. The rest continued talking for a while, but then either tailed off or ‘met someone else’. I made it clear that I was deaf, but iterated that I did not need to bring an interpreter to any dates because I speak. I had one woman email me saying that she understood about being deaf and dating as she had a kid! I even had a terp emailing me telling me that I was really brave for going on a hearing dating site! Yes, you may get fewer responses, but in the long run it is far less hurtful.
I am very easy going and always looking to have fun! I speak well with hard of hearing myself and also I can do little BSL too.
Age 52 From Belfast, United Kingdom Online - 1 week ago Woman Seeking Man (2735 Kilometers Away) I am divorced and trustworthy, large build and short auburn hair..
It was fun at first, writing a profile, and then looking for matches. Then we started talking about meeting up – this whole internet dating malarkey is paying off! Whether this is connected or not, I don’t know, but of the women who I was in conversation with, not one of them agreed to meet me after I revealed I was deaf. The number of views stayed the same, but the number of people contacting me tailed off quite significantly. The Limping Chicken is the world's most popular Deaf blog, and is edited by Deaf journalist and filmmaker Charlie Swinbourne.
I sent a few emails to them saying ‘hey, your profile looks great, reply if you like mine’ or some other cheesy line. I arrange our first date, just a drink in a local pub. Understandably, she was nervous about meeting me – or so I thought! It couldn’t have been my face, she saw my profile picture. The next day, I sent her an email asking what I had done wrong. However, I still get an email every couple of weeks off a woman, and I have had a couple of very pleasant dates.
But the internet also presents a different challenge: the profile page.Since many people with normal hearing don’t deal with hearing loss in their lives, they might not be aware of all the little things they take for granted.Don’t be afraid to suggest little changes in how they communicate with you, such as turning to look at you when they speak or being mindful of mumbling and enunciating clearly.Don’t be afraid to post photos in which your hearing aids are prominently displayed.In most cases, a pair of hearing aids is hardly enough to make someone turn and run in the opposite direction. The more a potential date knows, the better they can adapt to make communication for future dates easier and more pleasant.