It is flattering to know that someone likes me and is nervous about approaching me.
Perhaps these lighter additions will offer a wider range of options. You usually take it for granted that getting together is a given that both sides equally want and would enjoy. You shouldn't really need so-called techniques to manipulate and coerce people into dating.I have a hard time with this approach when it is used on me, especially repeatedly. So if you are too nervous the techniques are a fun reminder to get back to natural friendly ways as if you were friends. My friends and I don't communicate in this way, we are very straight forward with one another.I have an ex who still will always say "Let me know when you want to ...." instead of just outright asking. This is what confident people usually do and confidence and naturalness and playfulness are usually welcome in most social circles -and especially in friendship and dating. In addition, I understand that everybody is different and some people are shyer and more reserved than others.So, after providing caveats, I then leave it up to the individual reader whether they prefer to be more forthright or indirect in their methods. A former colleague tried this on me a couple of times, it made me so uncomfortable I finally cut off all contact.For those who prefer more direct methods, my earlier articles on "Just Asking" might be a better fit: Just Asking for It! Part II: Why Dating Partners Say Yes Cristina - Thanks again for your input. To this reader, there is nothing fun, flirtatious or light-hearted about manipulating a conversation or a situation or provoking a response that you want. The original examples were designed as "strong" interpretations of the technique.