We have gone through so many things together and bring out the best in each other," she says.
Abby reached out to me after she read my first article and shared with me her own situation: After nearly 15 years with her boyfriend—including a decade living together—the prospect of marriage is still nowhere in sight.
I received—and still receive—emails from women asking me if I’m married yet and how long I was willing to wait. I’ve looked to science, and asked relationship experts and friends both married and unmarried for better answers. When it comes to your relationship, only you and your partner can decide what’s right and wrong.
How can a third party, even in his or her infinite wisdom, ever fully grasp or understand what goes on either of your hearts? No one can—except maybe someone who’s going through it too.
But I would not try to find argument to defend someone incapable to understand this and make a decision after years of live together.
It is not being a terrorist to ask for some consideration on something that matters to you.