If you’re the only person with HIV, your partner should explain to their doctor that they had unprotected sex with an HIV-positive person.Either way, this info helps your physician monitor your treatment and, if needed, order tests or medication to prevent further complications.For many folks, like Greater Than AIDS ambassador Marvelyn Brown, having that conversation is easier over the phone early in the relationship. Some doctors say that different strains of HIV can be passed between two positive people, and this can make existing treatment ineffective.She says that way she hasn’t invested too much energy in the relationship before finding out whether having HIV makes her a no-go for a potential partner. It’s called reinfection, it can up your viral load, and it’s why many experts want you to continue using condoms (plus they also prevent other sexually transmitted infections).
The longer you wait, the more difficult it gets,” they note.
For people with HIV, dating can be intimidating and fear of rejection might keep you from disclosing your status to dates.
Experts at AIDSInfo recommend that you remember every situation is different and you don’t have to tell everybody.
Some sites, such as HIVNet.com, began as community sites in the ’90s and grew into dating sites as more members joined; that kind of start offers a sort of friendly, self-policing (no spam! Plenty of sites specific to other parts of your identity make disclosing your status easy.
It’s not uncommon to see profiles that begin with “I am HIV-positive” and go on to list the poster’s other interests, as they do on the pet-lovers personals site Love Me Love My Pets.com, or JDate.com, which is for Jewish singles.