If you put the friendship first above your interest in dating her as a girlfriend, you are in serious risk of being relegated to the “friend zone,” which is a difficult place to escape from.My advice to you is to get together with her and talk in person.Generalized advice just doesn’t pan out most of the time.For instance, that “Don’t go to bed angry” shit would have resulted in my divorce.Pick a spot where your friends never go – maybe a Starbucks across town – so she will feel as though her privacy is being protected. Is she big-eyed and smiling, or detached and thoughtful? There’s one more thing you must do: Tell her in a very matter-of-fact way that you like her. Boldly and confidently grasp her shoulder or hands.Ask her how she’s doing and if she is truly finished with her ex. Just make sure she knows you are interested in her in a romantic man-woman kind of way.Her true thoughts and intentions should reveal themselves as the conversation unfolds.
We have been texting a lot – like 200 messages a week. We also hang out, and I think she looks for me in the halls. Thanks for trusting us with this important personal issue.The hardest thing that human beings ever have to face is that sometimes, the people we most want to be around in the world could give a shit less if we exist.They don’t mind us being around, necessarily, but they wouldn’t care if we weren’t.Often, I start with this disclaimer: “Anyone who has ever given you relationship advice is full of bullshit.”It’s true.Human beings are invariably different, each and every one of ’em, and driven by thousands of experiences, beliefs and behaviors.