This being said, when most American [women] hear the words “I love you,” they take this very seriously.
Due to mistake number one, she believes the man will do anything and everything in his power to create a long term commitment which will sooner than later evolve into marriage.
Many say “The first year of marriage is the hardest.” This is often said among Americans who marry other Americans – not in a typical cross-cultural relationship.
Because the Western woman is wrapped up in the exotic that is India; the traditional culture with the perceived higher sense of family values due to living in an extended family, and the idea of love conquering all, she is blinded by the reality that is about to hit her like a pile of bricks.The problem is that in many Indian families, many may still believe love comes after marriage.This is of course due to the arranged marriage which is prevalent among many segments of Indian society regardless of geography.Thinking of this from the point of view of the Indian’s relationship with you, keep in mind he may hold back physical and emotional forms of affection as well as verbal confirmations of love. In fact, many Indian guys who really do love you will withhold this out of respect for you and wanting to reserve these special occasions for after tying the knot.The problem here is that, in many Indian’s minds, they may not commit to any of these forms of affection until their parents have given the go-ahead.