Even my Korean-American husband was told by an Asian woman that she “didn’t do Asians”.
This is what many Asian men are constantly put through. The media certainly can condition us to like certain things, but at the end of the day attraction happens outside of any theoretical constructs we discuss at length.
As someone who has worked with JT Tran of “ABCs of Attraction” for years, I speak from experience when I say I’ve come to know what it’s like for men in the dating scene.
I’ll be the first to admit that, if dating happened in a textbook scenario, it’s actually fairly straightforward for women.
We just wait around until a guy asks us out, and then we decide if we’re going to let it happen.
Now I know that it doesn’t always happen that way, but that’s the way society has long since defined dating, and plenty of women still get asked out to this day.
Unfortunately, this kind of gender racism will continue unless we see Asian men in leading romantic roles.
Now imagine being expected to do this in order to find a romantic partner, then try walking up to that really, really cute guy.Sam Louie is a psychotherapist in private practice specializing in addictions, Asian American issues and Christian counseling.Prior to therapy, he worked more than a dozen years as an Emmy Award-winning television news reporter where he researched and reported on a number of stories related to addictions, culture and psychotherapy. But it’s also true that Asian women have long been cast alongside white men in movies, television, and even the nightly news.Just ask yourself, when was the last time you saw an Asian American male anchor with a white female co-anchor?