And I also tended to be the only English speaker, meaning we were all forced to communicate in German.Plus many of them were in relationships with Germans, so visiting classmates at their flats helped me to further immerse myself into German social life. Make plans, don’t just wait to be invited Honestly this is generally just a good friend-making rule of thumb for adults, especially for the immediate post-university period where you may feel shocked by a sudden lack of immediate community. Expand your interests and vocabulary When you’re in your home country, it’s easy to fall back on topics that most people can relate to, and that tends to be pop culture, sports, or some common set of jokes.Expression Swing is the only patented playground Swing designed to promote intergenerational play in which can adult and child interact face to face and eye to eye.Research tells us when a parent and a child's eyes meet, particularly during play, there is an intense and significant moment of emotional bonding that occurs.Scientists call this "attunement" and it enhances the social, emotional and cognitive well-being of both children and adults This swing allows mutual, joy-filled eye contact that activates the hard-wired play ‘state’ to spontaneously and vigorously emerge.It allows intergenerational mutual play to occur throughout the life cycle and stimulates cerebra-cerebellar circuits that we know are hugely important for developmental competency.So instead of informing everyone about things you like from back home, ask them questions about what they like or their traditions.It can lead to some pretty entertaining conversations about ridiculous kids’ shows, You Tube stars and wedding traditions. Find a tandem partner (or two) If your German class is full of tight-lipped, asocials, maybe it’s time to find a tandem partner.
And if you fear your German isn’t good enough (or perhaps even non-existent), at least it could give you a physical activity to share and potentially discuss - even if it’s just through body language. Take a German class - or some other class While I do know a number of expats who never get around to learning German despite living here for years, having some knowledge of the native tongue will certainly open up even more doors for you socially.
So don’t say you’ll go somewhere unless you really mean it. Be patient Forming friendships always takes time, whether your new city is within your home country or abroad.
But coupled with the language barrier and the different norms when it comes to friendships, it is easy to feel frustrated and hopeless. Friendships will start to form slowly - perhaps slower than you like - but they’ll be worth it because you put time and effort into them.
The best classes for me were at the public Volkshochschule - which is also much more affordable than private courses.
There the people seem to be more committed to living in Germany, rather than just passing through, meaning they were more likely to be looking for long-term friendships.